Is it any easier today to lead a Gay lifestyle than it was 20 years ago?
I’d like to think that today we have moved a lot further forward in our understanding & acceptance of everyone’s choice of sexuality – But does everyone feel the same?
- Are you hiding your true sexuality in fear of what your family or friends may think of you?
- Did you get married & even have children before you were true to yourself?
- Has your wife or husband come out of the closet years after you have been together? – What was your reaction?
- How would you feel if your son or daughter told you that they were gay?
In top flight football today there are still no self confessed gay players, ever since Justin Fashanu came out & committed suicide in 1998
Even the Pope in his New Year address said that gay marriage was one of several threats to the traditional family that undermined “the future of humanity itself”.
Here are a few reactions
Hi Graham – Just a quick email I came out just over 2 years ago – I could never of come out 20 years ago. I have been married and have 2 daughters I always knew I was gay but was brought up with keep with the “norm”. Just woke up one morning and told my family they have all been very supportive, I think it is easier now but that maybe because I’m older and don’t worry what people think so much now I am in a very loving and happy relationship.
Hi. I’m 17 years old and gay. I came out to my mum around 5 months ago. I’ve known I was gay since I was around 7 years old. When I told my mum she was watching TV and I came in and asked her if I could talk to her. I told her and she thought I was joking, and was constantly denying it. We talked for about an hour and then she said something that really bothered me and made me feel sad, she said that she would change my sexuality if she could. She doesn’t ‘hate’ the fact I’m gay, she’s accepting, but she doesn’t like it. It made me feel like she didn’t love me, which is a really sad feeling. I think parents should accept their children for who they are, or not have children. You should love your children no matter what. I haven’t told anyone else yet, as my dad is extremely homophobic. Apparently gays make him ‘vomit’. If there’s a gay couple on TV he will leave the room. It’s quite saddening. My brother is always making homophobic remarks like ‘gay boy’ etc. (he doesn’t know) but I think he would probably accept me, but still tease me, but that’s okay. I want to know why so many young people (teenagers) dislike gays. I could hardly come out at college because everyone is homophobic. Even though the college would kick them off the course if they were homophobic, they’re still bound to think things and say stuff behind your back.
Graham, this discussion is weird, I’m a man who has sex with men – lives with men and have only related to being with a guy. Being gay is not a choice – it who I am – why would I CHOOSE to live a lifestyle where I am discriminated and persecuted?? Being gay is not a choice – it’s who I am – and it is a lifestyle I enjoy. In my next life – who knows – what I will return as! Heck it may be as a straight person! And I will embrace that life style as I do my current one. Being gay is not a threat to anyone’s life or way of life. Why should it be? Religions – whatever they are – and I am not religious – should stop ‘preaching’ against gay relationships. As I gay man – I have been open to my family – and a work – and have had no problems – everyone is supportive of me and my life style. I’m now 55 and to be honest – I’m more happy and comfortable with my life that I was as a teenager. To be honest – let’s just drop gay/straight etc – we are just people – who live and contribute to society.
I firmly believe we are heading in the right direction with us accepting others sexuality – But we still have a long way to go.
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